Martin Short has long been admired for his humor, but behind the laughs lies a life marked by profound losses that he has faced with remarkable grace.Years before his daughter Katherine’s recent passing, the comedian opened up about the multiple family tragedies he endured and the heartfelt philosophy that helped him cope.

Early losses shaped his outlook.

By age 20, Martin Short had lost three immediate family members. His older brother died in a car accident when Short was 12, followed by his mother to cancer and then his father two years later. Despite these blows, Short refused to see his family as tragic. “It sounds like a tragic family, but it really isn’t,” he shared in People magazine’s first profile on him. “My mother had cancer, and she had been ill and then in remission since I was 13. She was a remarkable person; both my parents were. So I never looked at it as if it was a tragedy that I didn’t have them my whole life. You learn some sense of priorities. Our whole family took the attitude that if you have wonderful moments, don’t second-guess them; just enjoy them.”

Coping with wife Nancy Dolman’s death

Short’s wife, Nancy Dolman, an actress and comedy writer, passed away in 2010 at age 58 after battling ovarian cancer. The couple had been married for 30 years and shared three adopted children: Katherine, Henry, and Oliver. Short described the grief as tough but transformative. “It’s been a tough two years for my children,” he told The Guardian in October 2012. “This is the thing of life that we live in denial about, that it will ever happen to us or our loved ones, and when it does, you gain a little and you suffer a little. There’s no big surprise.”He found solace in believing loved ones remain close after death. “I believe that when people die, they zoom into the people that love them,” Martin Short explained. “This idea that it just ends, and we don’t speak of them, that’s wrong. That’s based on the denial that we’re all going to die. So to me, she’s still here. At the same time, her death emboldened me to take risks. With real tragedy, you become a little more daring. It’s the yin to the yang: the positive part of life’s dark side.”

Lasting resilience

Short echoed this in later reflections, telling his kids after Nancy’s death, during an interview with People Magazine, “I believe Mom has zoomed into our souls.” He drew from George Eliot: “Our dead are never dead to us until we have forgotten them.” We were together for 36 years. I didn’t want to forget Nancy.”These words highlight Martin Short’s touching coping mechanism: embracing memories, rejecting denial, and letting loss fuel boldness.